Getting Over A Break Up
I know it’s been said on numerous occasions – getting over a break up is never easy. Regardless of how simple some people try to make it sound, you can attempt hundreds of different little things to try to make the breakup easier on yourself. Some breakup tips may help while most don’t.
Yet, no matter how good some tips may be, it never changes the fact that getting over a break up hurts. And, the pain of ending a relationship can last for a very long time! So, how can you survive a relationship breakup with minimum damage?
As per dudethrill.com, the most intense pain of a relationship break-up usually occurs right after it happens. When we don’t see these things coming, like kind of being “blind-sided by love”, a sudden end to a relationship can be a real shock. Once this initial shock starts to fade a bit, the pain and sadness of the break up begins to take hold of our emotions.
Let yourself go through all the negative emotions associated with a break up.
Even though these feelings of deep hurt and depression are very unpleasant to say the least, rest assured that they are completely normal. Most people going through a relationship breakup experience these emotions in varying degrees.
And, while no-one really wants to sit around feeling sad and miserable, it’s absolutely necessary that you allow yourself to feel this way about the ending of your romantic relationship with your partner. However, don’t let these feelings go on too long, just let them come to the surface, acknowledge them and accept them for what they are, a natural human reaction to lost love.
By not really dealing with your emotions it’s almost impossible for you to move on and start getting over a break up. If you keep pushing your feelings of sadness and hurt into the background and refuse to tackle them head on, the longer the whole healing process of recovering from the breakup will take.
By refusing to deal with the emotional consequences of breaking up with your partner, you’re forcing yourself to feel bad much longer than is necessary. And, this is definitely not good for your health nor your general well-being.
Are you living in hope that you’ll get your ex back one day (soon)…you know, some sort of magical, Hollywood-style reconciliation?
For those of you who still remain in denial about the end of your relationship with your boyfriend or girlfriend, this will be very hard for you to come to terms with…the relationship is O-V-E-R! (At least, for the time being.)
This second tip to help with getting over a break up will most likely be the most difficult to follow!
By holding onto some vague dream or notion that you’ll get back together with your ex, you’re stopping yourself from moving forward with your life. The best thing to do is to remove all memories of your ex for right now, and completely avoid seeing him or her as much as possible.
Perhaps your break up was amicable and you’ve both agreed that you want to remain friends. That’s fantastic! This makes it more likely that he or she will understand your need to distance yourself from the situation and them for a while. Getting over a relationship break up, especially when you were romantically involved, is hard when you have to cope with seeing that person every day.
While staying friends is certainly an option, you’re hurting right now, your emotions are all over the place and seeing your ex will only remind you of the pain of the breakup.
If your ex wants to remain friends with you, then he or she should understand your need to take care of yourself for a while, especially if they are the one who ended the relationship. While it hurts to take that final step of avoiding your ex, it’s really necessary for getting over a break up.
Sure, there’s no reason you can’t re-establish contact when you’re feeling stronger emotionally and less likely to pine for the lost relationship every time you see him or her. Just don’t rush into it, take time to ‘find yourself’ again before making any commitments. It also gives you the opportunity to work out whether or not you want to re-ignite the relationship you once had with your ex.
